I had several blind dates in my youth, most all of them ended up well.
I can only remember one that was a bad experience, and that was because
it ended up the young lady did not like boys, if you understand my meaning.
One day I was working for a lady that I'd done many jobs for, when she told
me a good friend of her family's was coming to visit for a month and would
I mind taking her out a couple of times? As she knew my reputation
this quite surprised me, but as we were good friends and I had no permanent
attachments at the time, I said "Sure!"
The first night I went down to pick the girl up I thought I had made a big
mistake. For she was the ugliest girl I had ever seen in my life!
And I do not say that to be cruel. But I decided to make the best
of it. I asked her what she liked to do. She made a couple of
suggestions, and we decided on bowling.
At first she was rather standoffish, but as the night went on, we began to
joke and laugh, to have a great time. By the end of the evening I
was in no hurry to take her home.
As I was to work at her friend's camp the rest of the month that she was
there, we were virtually inseparable. She would even come along with
me when I was working most of the time, except when the ladies I was working
for would be upset if I brought a girl along.
I don't think in that time, either one of us ever said the words "I love
you." We didn't have to. Both of us knew it. I tried to
persuade her to stay longer, even offering to pay her expenses, if necessary.
But she said she REALLY had to go home.
During that period I barely drank, as I didn't want to lose any of the time
with her, which was very unusual. I also brought her home to meet
my mother, a very rare occurrence with my girlfriends and my mother immediately
took to her. She made the very rare comment "She's an awfully nice
girl, dear!"
As the next year went by I thought about her very often, especially as the
anniversary of the time we had spent together grew near. I asked the
lady who had introduced us if there was any possibility of her coming back
that summer. She looked at me very sadly, and said, "No, dear."
A couple of weeks later I got the mail out of the mailbox and I found a
letter addressed to me...an incredibly rare occurrence! I took it
inside and opened it. Though I burned it long ago, I remember every
word. It began-
"My dearest, dearest Gerald. I am Selina, Carlina's mother. Though
she did not want me to for she wanted you only to remember her the way she
was, when you were together, I have to write you and tell you that a little
less than a month ago, Carlina passed away. We had known it was coming
for a long time. In the end most of the time she was delirious, and
when she was back with me I would ask her where she had been.
Sometimes she would say "I was with poppa, mama." But other times she
would answer with a smile, "I was in Maine, mama."
She did not suffer, really. There was not much pain.
I want you to know how much I love you. Though I am sure we will never
meet, there will always be a fond place for you in my heart.
My daughter, most of her life, hated being a girl. Besides the cancer
she considered it the cruelest thing God had ever done to her. But
when she returned from Maine she loved being a girl, because you had loved
it so much. She even struck up a relationship with a couple of boys
around here that she had known all her life but never been able to get close
to.
She told me again and again of all your times together. I SHOULD be
angry about some of them, but I cannot be.
I'm sorry. I can't go on any longer. I know you do not believe
in God, but I hope with all my heart, that He will keep and protect you
from all harm.
Yours In the Deepest, Deepest Regard."
I do not cry very often, but that day I cried. Of course at the time
I did not know my powers, I did not know HOW close Carlina had actually been
to me in those last months of her life.
I went down to her friend's and asked them to write her mother telling her
how much I had appreciated her letter, and how glad I was that I had happened
to be there at the right time. And, that I had done the right thing.
It is still hard for me today, to think back to that month, to think back
to that letter. But to remember the good, to remember the joyous you
have to also remember the bad.
In Our Peoples' Philosophy it says "For everything there is a price."
I think, over the years I have learned THAT lesson very well.